One way to be happier is to learn how and when to let things go.
There are three choices you can make in any situation.
Accept it, Change it, or Straight up leave the situation.Today we will talk about accepting the past. Part II will be about current situations. I will help you figure out if there are any changes you can make and if not how to accept the now. Then Part III will be about how to freely leave situations when they no longer serve you.
Accepting The Past (Whatever dilemma/situation you are calling it)
instead of replaying a situation trying to figure out what you could have done differently,
instead of over thinking what someone said trying to find another meaning
wouldn't it be awesome if you could let it go?
The past is over with, done, gone. What good is it dwelling on it?
Is it making you feel better? NO.
Feel It
Feel the emotion. Figure out what it is about this situation that is making you keep thinking about it. Get honest with yourself. Once you figure it out feel it for a good few minutes.
Let It Go
When it feels right, let it go. Decide to forget about it.
I know you may say, well this is easier said than done.
When it comes up again, just be aware of those thoughts.
Once you realize what you are doing. You can stop.
You may say, but what if I don't want to stop?
I have been there where I am upset with someone, and I want to stay mad at them. So I keep re-playing the incident in my head so I stay mad. It is a vicious cycle.
Just think to yourself, I would have to be a fool to want to keep feeling upset. Who would want to feel anything other than happy. And you being mad at them, is not hurting them. It is hurting you.
"Do not waste one moment in regret, for to think feelingly of the mistakes of the past is to re-infect yourself."
Neville Goddard (1905-1972)
This quote says it perfectly. When you are replaying mistakes you are creating that bad frequency again by feeling it.
With Love,
Kristina Ann